Have No fear

When we are in love specially during teenager days, We we're hopeless romantic.
libestod like romeo and juliet sort of romantic. Love wasn't real unless it was a dark passion.
According to Nora Ephron (when harry met Sally) When you realize you want to spend the rest of your life with somebody , you want the rest of your life to start as soon as possible.

No relationship is good 100% of the time. The people who have the healthiest relationships do have arguments and disagreements, but they know the RIGHT way to fight and understand the communication is necessary.

In summary, yes. Every relationship ever has had low points and high points, and the “perfect relationship” shown to you by Hollywood simply doesn't exist.

HOWEVER, that does not mean it won't be the best thing that's ever happened to you.
If you love each other, truly, then those ups and downs won't destroy your bond. They'll make you love your partner more.
But don't get me wrong. If the “downs” are severe and they happen all the time, you may want to reconsider why you're with someone who doesn't make you happy.

(c) Spencer Jones, Renaissance Man

When a relationship ends, it’s tempting to dwell on what you did wrong or what you could have done differently. This might seem productive—like you can somehow change things by rehashing it. You can’t. All dwelling does is cause you to suffer.

Just remember how happy it is to be alone sometimes and spoil yourself

At first you thought that You couldn't live without him, Eventually you will moved on. You will not embrace a life of revenge and anger. will not commit suicide , and will not join a nunnery. Instead you say this : "I will lived one day at a time, discovering for myself what it was to be an adult and what it was to be a person on my own terms instead of someone else'. I lost my first passionate love, and I am happier for it"

Be grateful for every moment and make sure to do what's going to make you most happy, which means laughing as much as possible with with people who are important to you.
Don't let life pass you by. Its way too short and in an instant it can be taken away . try something new, even if it as small as a tasting new food.

All life is an experiment.

Thew more experiments you make the better

- Ralph Waldo emerson

PORACAY

I will Remember you

(c)photo source:google

I have a not a super close friend because I do not know everything about her, just some little secrets that she told me and surprisingly I didn’t tell her mine but she knew it already ( just ignored it)

Okay, so it was college days, I knew she was an excellent student, she may have problems in life but she still manage to finish a 2 degree course(s). We were friends since 3^rd year, well my first impression of her is that she’s too simple and super shy but having those smile that she’s hiding always makes me think she has something inside herself that she’s not ready to show to other people.

I didn’t know about her tender and compassionate heart, her priorities, held above grades, colleges & awards. I didn’t know about the time she ditched a party to console a friend. Slowly, I grew to see her as a pillar, who supported everyone and everything. She never mentioned it to me because we are not super close to each other. I'm not her best friend but I consider her as my friend , a nice friend

We’ve been in a couple of fight,  telling hurtful words to each other but manage to be okay…but still it is hurting me.  

She had been a beautiful person to me, though through and I wondered how we would ever regain our faith after what happened …but walking through the grim of landscape of cold june, the sky threatening to soak us in our mourning garb. I wasn’t sure if I was ready to keep on living without her around? Yes, she’s not a family member or even a very close friend of mine but still she has a part of my life and I don’t know why she’s acting so weird that she can easily throw even a small memory of ours.

You really don’t know a person until you get into a fight

We separated only just recently after months of being together & I learned a lot about her.

Even though you hurt my feelings I still consider you as my friend.

“when you are sorrowful look again in your heart, and you shall see that in truth you are weeping for thtat which has been your delight “ 

–khalil gibran

Your Ideal Man

Ladies, We all have this ideal man thing in our mind but dont get too excited!

If you are searching for your ideal man you should consider some qualities like their
Character,Maturity,Intelligence,Compatibility, & Fear of God 

Our Ideal Man..

• Should pay attention to you, have the ability to listen

• Should be a gentleman, he should treat you like a lady .
• Should know how to appreciate
• Should be in shape year round, he should be conscious of his looks, he should have a smart dress sense, stylish but respectable 
• Should be self assured, not letting his insecurities cloud his judgement, 
• An ideal man should have a sense of humour, the ability to put a smile on your faceand make you laugh, that would always give him the upper hand!
• Should be your number 1 supporter. He should be there to chat with you, to correct and comfort you, he should have emotional as well as physical strength. 
• Should trust you, he should neither look back on the past nor be penitent, he shouldn’t hesitate to say “I love you”.
• A man who would hold you through your hurricanes, happy to face them with you. Is one that would catch you when you fall.
• should have respect for you
• Lastly, an ideal man should be a God lover, out to please and love the things of God. He should be a man after God’s heart.

*Got this The choose's  and over's by  Kaye Margareth and did  a summary  ↓

Choose a "man" over a "boy", It's the behavior that we need badly,

Choose a " well-mannered" over a "good looking" Because you can't eat looks for a living,

Choose a "knight" over a "prince" 

Choose a "diamond" over a "rock" Because when it fades, there's no way to turn it back.Don't waste it, as long as you have it,

Choose a "man of actions" over a "man of words" Because words are like swords.

Choose "time" over "money" Because money is too many, Unlike time, that some are running out of,

Choose "reality" over "fantasy" Because it's not good to live in ecstacy,

Choose a "home" over a "house"

Not also for you but also for your spouse,

Choose the "painful truth" over the "sweetest lie"

Because even the sweetest can be the saltiest,

Choose "the one that God allowed" over "the one that got away"

Because God finds another way.

If he let you go, it's his loss not yours.

You just choose the choose's over the over's.

My Ideal Man

I want a man who has a great sense of humour, God fearing, loving, caring, honest, hard working, disciplined, trustworthy and will accept me as simple as that. No need to be handsome and have abdominal muscles physically. 

but remember women know your worth . Dont let anyone make you feel bad . Love yourself first because no one else will do it and lastly learn to wit for that right person in the right time and right place.

Ang dahilan ng luha (malayang tula para sa mga pangarap ang CPA)

Ma, Pa, ma'am , sir : Tao po
Ako'y kumakatok sa puso Nyo po
lubos na akong hirap sa bawat sem nato
bakit ba kayhirap abutin ang tuktok

Malapit napo akong sumuko
sumuko sa buhay at pangarap na ito
hindi lang pera ang nauubos
pati oras , kalusugan,kaligayahan at puso

Natanong nyo naba kung okay pa kami?
Sa sobrang paghihigpit nyo para makapasa kami
Para kaming kandilang unting unting nauupos
onting ihip nalang baka mahantong sa dextrose

May oras na ayaw na pero sayang ang naumpisahan
Pero bakit kayhirap abutin ang pangarap
Parang ito na ang unti unting papatay sakin sa hirap
Para bang lusaw na lusaw sa kaalaman

Ayoko Na Pong abutin
Masakit pero kailangangan sambitin
Ma, Pa dikona kaya pang magpanggap sainyong paningin
Dahil kahapon akoy nanalamin

Oo, nakita ko aking sarili na di na marunong ngumiti
Pagkat di na alam kung san patungo
Pinilit mo naman pero di talaga tadhana siguro
Kaya heto ako heto na tayo

Nagawa naman natin ang lahat
Halos tayo ay mapuyat at laging dilat
ginawang tubig ang kape para makasulat
Calcu lang ang laging kasama magbuklat

Pero kahit hirap ...kailangan lumaban
pagsubok malalagpasan basta ako'y suportahan
Palakasin nyo kami ng inyong pagmamahal
Busugin ng Pangaral at Paliguan ng Dasal

Kayo nalamang ang aming agimat sa laban
Kayo ang dahilan ng  di pagsuko sa ulan
Sana kami'y inyong tulungan
Dahil balang araw ako...kami ay magtatagumpay

Makikita nyo ang luha kong papatak
Sa diplomang aking hawak
at sa certificate na aking pinagpuyatan
nakaukit aking pangalan at sa dulo nito may CPA sa aming ngalan



tula ni
Joanna calayag

Kayanin mag-isa (maikling tula)

Tulala sa bawat sulok ng dingding
nakatayo at nakatingin
san ba to patungo?
kakayanin kobang tumayo?

Dikona alam kung tama paba
ipaglaban ang naumpisahan noon pa
mahirap Oo mahirap
lalo na kung ikaw lang mag isa ang humaharap

Naiisip ko nalang kung kaya mo, kaya ko
pero bakit ganon malungkot ako ngayon
pero isipin ko man maging tayo di na sila sang-ayon
pati puso't isip koy parang nagbakasyon

Kaya heto ako lalaban sinta
sa buhay na diko nakasanayang mag isa
Siguro panahon na ako naman ang magpasya
Sa bawat kilos at desisyon para sumaya

Oo! Kakayanin ko kahit mag isa
sabi nga: unahin mo muna sarili mo bago sila
matuto muna sa sarili bago mahalin ang iba
Para sa bandang huli ikaw naman ang lumigaya

- joanna calayag

Kaya Paba natin to? (Malayang Taludturan)

Heto nanaman tayo
sa araw araw nating tanong
sa kung sino
ano at kailan

Minsan naisip ko kung kaya paba
kaya paba natin to?
O pinipilit nalang kasi sayang yung tayo?
Sa apat na taon naging tayo
Naging masaya ako totoo
Pero di lahat ng relasyon perpekto
mas madalas ang sakit at kirot
na para bang sarili ko lang ang nagpapahilom

Ni dimo ninais na ayusin ang gulo
Dinadaan mo nalang lagi sa pagtulog
Ganyan ba ang gusto mong relasyon?
Ang ninanais mo lang ang gusto mong masunod?
Di ako aso na uto uto
Umiyak ako ng minsan mo akong murahin
Ang sabi mo'y ganon lang talaga ang yong sambitin

tinanggap koyun kahit masakit
Dahil di ako pinalaking ganon sa amin
Kahit sabi mo'y sobra lang akong maramdamin
Tingin mo pag iba ang yong murahin okey lang rin sa damdamin?

Mahal, may mga kaibigan ako
nais kong kausapin at ngitian mo sila
Pero labag sa loob mo pagkat di mo sila kilala

Pag ika'y nasa amin lagi kong tinatawag ang mga bata
Nagalit ka kasi ginagawa kitang taga karga
Di mo alam hinahanap ka naman talaga nila

Minsan nagpasundo kami sayo ng pamilya ko
pagka't wala kaming masakyan kako
ang tahimik mo magmaneho
yun pala ang sabi mo ginagawa kitang drayber

diba kapag tayo na ang nagisang dibdib lahat ng iyo ay akin
matuwa ka at maayos ang pamilya ko sa iyo
ngunit bakit parang labag sa loob mo ito?

Minsan nautusan ka namin ng mama ko
Sumagot ka ng pasigaw pagkat ayaw mo
Kaya pala banta mo sakin mahanap ako ng iba ko
kung under lang ako hahanapin ko
Pagkat ang gusto mo ikaw ang boss ko

Wala akong pinilit sa lahat
Gusto mo lang ang tinanggap ko ng maluwag
Oo nabibigay mo lahat
pagkain, panggala at iba pa
per tingin moba sapat na yon para sumaya?

Naisip moba kung san ako masaya?
kaya morin bang tanggapin ang desisyon ko mag isa?
Hindi naman kita a-underin gusto kolang tawagin mokong commander
Di kita pinilipit kaibiganin sila gusto kolang matuto kang makisama
di kita Pinilit sunduin ako o kami ang gusto kolang maging parte ka ng pamilya
Di sa ginagawa kitang taga karga ang nais kolang matuwa sayo ang mga bata

Simple lang naman kaya moba?
Di ako naghahangad ng iba pa
Tingin mo ba kaya paba?
Ang tayo na masaya?
Kasi pagod nakong tanggapin pa
Na ako lang lagi ang umuunawa


- Joanna Calayag

Magkaibigan parin (Maikling tula)

- ni joanna calayag


Bakit ba ganito ang  usapan natin
Birubiruan na ngalang ba ito
O totohanan na ang mga banatan natin?
Para bang tayo'y nagbibitawan ng salitang naayon talaga sa damdamin
Pero ayaw lamang kumpirmahin dahil takot manligaw sa akin

Tuwing ikay aking nakakausap
Dilang mabulaklak na salita aking natatangap
Pati mga asarang walang pakundangan
Maitawid lamang ang usapan
Hanggang sa tayoy magkatulugan

Magkatulugan man pero kinabukasan ikay paring kausap
Walang hinto ang daldalan, at ang mga  banatan
Hangang sa dimo alam totoo na aking nararamdaman
"Gusto moba ako? Sabay biro lang" pati kasi ako takot na
Takot ng malaman mo ang totoo baka kasi tayo'y magkalayo

Ewan koba kung ano ba tayo
Basta ang alam ko'y masaya ako
Masaya sa bawat sandali na tayoy magkausap
Di lang masaya kundi sobrang saya
Tila ba akoy tuluyang nahulog na

Ngunit kung itong nararamdaman koy akin pinairal
Pagkakaibigan natin masisira't tayo'y magkakawalay
Dahil baka sa pagkahulog , akoy iyong sisihin
Wag naman sana dahil alam kong dimoko kayang saluhin
At Tanggap kona na sa huli tayo ay magkaibigang parin


** Para sa mga Kaklase at kaibigan kong pine-friendzone
Ganon talaga ang buhay "weather weather lang"hahaha

Suko na

Ako ang babaeng naniniwala sa mga mabubulaklak na salita
Namamangha sa mga bagay na kanilang pinapakita
Bawat aksyon para sakin ay kagilas gilas
Ngunit magkaron lamang ng away ako ay pumipiglas
Oo, Gusto konang pumiglas sa pekeng kasiyahan
Mga away  na di lamang pang isang araw
Kundi ginawa nang umagahan tanghalian at hapunan
Pero nagkakabati lamang kapag naglalambingan
Pero sa normal na araw bakit walang imikan?
Walang kwentuhan? Sino kananga ba ulit?
Bakit ka nandito?
Ano tayo?


Ah ako ngapala ang kasintahan mo
Na kasama molang kapag kailangan mo
At kapag  busy ka sa ibang bagay napakadaling maichipwera mo
Kaya pala kahit special na araw natin sila ang ang kasama mo
Nasa inuman ka at ako'y nag aantay sayo
At ang bigkas mo'y
 "bakit kelangan pa magkita at ipagdiwang kung araw araw naman ay special"
Ako naman parang isang aso na sunod sa mga winika nyang salita
Tilaba akoy nahipan nananamn ng hangin at napagtanto na
Wag akong magreklamo pagkat sya ay tama
Kayapala dolang isang beses kundi dalwang beses monang pinagdiwang kasama sila

Araw ng mga puso o araw ng mga pusong umaasa
Kalimitang diniriwang na may bigayan ng bulaklak at kung ano pa
Natatandaan moba na nakuha moko di lang sa mabulaklak mong salita
Kundi literal dinaan moko sa pagbibigay mo ng bulaklak
Pero ngayon wika mo nalamang " bakit kita bibigyan hindi nakakabusog ang bulaklak"
At tila ako nanaman ay naihip ng hangin na bumulong at nagwika
Wag akong demanding pagkat iyan ay masama

Lumipas ang mga taon
Nakaya mokong umuwi ng luhaan mag isa
Nakaya mong tulugan ang mga gabi na magkaaway tayong dalawa
Nakaya mong isipin na lahat ng sinasabi ko sayo ay di mahalaga
Pagkat panatag ka na di ako kakawala
Tao ako nakakaramdam ng sakit at kirot at baka mamaya
Dimo namalayang ayoko na pala


Sa relasyon nyong nasimula sa magandang usapan
Paunti ng paunti wala nakayong mapagkwentuhan
Ilang taon naba kayo?
Kila moparin ba sya?
Sya parin ba yan o nagbago na?
Nawala na ang dating suyuan
At nauwi sa hindi magandang usapan
Sa huli magsasawa ka nalang
Ayoko na
Sawa na ako
Suko na tayo

-ni joanna calayag